Whilst we can only go off what you've told us it does sound like a (without trying to set you up for disappointment later) salvageable situation hopefully.
Whilst there are all the things you've been dealing with going on in your life and with your family, you've just started a new job having just bought and moved into a new house. These are very stressful things to do as much as they can be joyful too and the timing of reaching a breaking point for her may not be just a coincidence. Assuming she was genuine in saying she wanted to stick it out she may have just hit a limit with all these other temporary factors on top. If that's the case then a bit of time to let things settle, sort yourselves out and clear your minds may find you both having a frank but fruitful conversation that can start you on the path to getting back on track.
Me and the missus had our first kid, moved into a new home, got new furniture, new car etc a few years back in a short window which are in themselves nice things but the stress of moving and the debt it incurred etc pushed our tempers to the absolute limit and we were absolutely miserable for a while till things settled.
It's good you're re-establishing your family connections and reflecting on things whilst you have this time, you have your new job and home in place so when you both talk and if she begins to move towards coming back home to you, you'll be a in a much better place to change your focus to her safe in the knowledge that whilst you may feel bad for trying to provide for her, you will be able to put your focus into the relationship having also not lost what you'd worked hard for too.
Whilst there are all the things you've been dealing with going on in your life and with your family, you've just started a new job having just bought and moved into a new house. These are very stressful things to do as much as they can be joyful too and the timing of reaching a breaking point for her may not be just a coincidence. Assuming she was genuine in saying she wanted to stick it out she may have just hit a limit with all these other temporary factors on top. If that's the case then a bit of time to let things settle, sort yourselves out and clear your minds may find you both having a frank but fruitful conversation that can start you on the path to getting back on track.
Me and the missus had our first kid, moved into a new home, got new furniture, new car etc a few years back in a short window which are in themselves nice things but the stress of moving and the debt it incurred etc pushed our tempers to the absolute limit and we were absolutely miserable for a while till things settled.
It's good you're re-establishing your family connections and reflecting on things whilst you have this time, you have your new job and home in place so when you both talk and if she begins to move towards coming back home to you, you'll be a in a much better place to change your focus to her safe in the knowledge that whilst you may feel bad for trying to provide for her, you will be able to put your focus into the relationship having also not lost what you'd worked hard for too.
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